I think, for me, in this situation, something like what forty something husband did would have worked because the only reason it sounds like she was feeling frustrated was because of the mood she was in, not the situation. Another day, another time, another hormone level and she probably would have woken up and just gone about the business of getting ready without being annoyed at all or blaming him for it.
I get this way too, sometimes. Today, my husband not calling me on the way home will annoy me because I am PMSing and feeling needy. Next week, his calling me on the way home will annoy me because I was late getting dinner out or whatever and now, I have a million things to do at the same time. It's not his fault, but it is easier to berate him (in my mind) because of his thoughtful gesture than to look at the fact that I got myself into this mess, LOL.